#cat - #Please help me figure out how I can take my kitty with me.

Please help me figure out how I can take my kitty with me.

I am currently escaping a not-very-good living situation. I have come to the conclusion that the relationship I'm in is unhealthy, my living situation is beyond stressful and awful for my anxiety, my boyfriend is a manipulator and controlling, etc. I have to leave. Next week, my dad is coming to stay with me for a week, at the end of the week my mom is coming with her boyfriend and all three are going to help me pack and leave. To make matters worse, his mother lives here, and she is CRAZY. She throws absolute berserk shitfits over the most mundane of things.

Neither of them know I'm leaving yet- I'm waiting until my dad gets here to tell them so I have support- both of them bully me around and take advantage of me because I'm timid and introverted and an empath which makes confrontation really hard for me. They take advantage of this.

I'm currently planning my getaway with my parents and I have to know how I can take my kitty.

We have a cat together, my boyfriend and I. We rescued him as a stray. He and I have such a special connection and he is the best cat in the world to me. However I don't know how I can take him. Right now we live in a regular neighborhood- our kitty is very territorial and will fight other cats he sees when outside. We've tried to curb his territorial behavior but nothing seems to work. My mother has a cat who is (very unfortunately) declawed, our cat has claws. She lives out in the country/forest where there are coyotes and snakes and bobcats and other things that could harm him, and he is very aggressive and territorial. I don't know if I could adjust him to living there. He is an outdoor cat and I fear for his safety. He can't stand being cooped up inside at all. My mother would like him to "live outside" in a building her boyfriend would build for him, and I told her that's not really a good life for him, living in a box outside. He needs to come in and snuggle in warm beds and get pets and treats and food. I want to keep him in my room and gradually let him out and see if he can get used to things.

I'm also terrified my boyfriend's mother will not let me take him. We, all three of us, have all paid for things for the cat, I paid moreso than the others, my boyfriend pays almost none. For things like his shots/neutering/food/toys/whatever else. But his mother is also obsessed with the cat and I'm afraid she won't let me take him and go absolutely berserk about it. She is a crazy, extremely selfish woman.

Even if I did take him, I'm very very worried about what I can do for him to be safe and have a good living situation.

I burst into tears everytime I think of the possibility that I might have to leave my precious boy. My heart is breaking. Please, what can I do?

Submitted April 08, 2018 at 02:39AM by TerrorShakes
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